MARRIAGE MINISTRY

RE|ENGAGE FAQ

FAQs

Q: How does RockPointe view marriages?

God has ordained the family as the foundational institution of human society. It is composed of persons related to one another by marriage, blood, or adoption. Marriage is the uniting of one man and one woman in covenant commitment. It is God’s unique gift to reveal the union between Christ and His church and to provide for the man and the woman in marriage the framework for intimate companionship, the channel of sexual expression according to biblical standards, and the means for procreation of the human race. Children, from the moment of conception, are a blessing and heritage from the Lord. Parents are to demonstrate to their children God’s pattern for marriage.

Scripture References: Genesis 1:26-28, Exodus 20:12, Deuteronomy 6:4-9, Joshua 24:15, 1 Samuel 1:26-28, Psalm 78:1-8, Psalm 127, Psalm 139:13-16, Proverbs 5:15-20, Proverbs 22:6, Matthew 18:2-5, Romans 1:18-32, 1 Corinthians 7:1-16, and Hebrews 13:4

Q: What is re|engage NOT?

re|engage is NOT marriage counseling and the leaders are facilitators, not counselors. They are also growing in their own marriages. Everyone in the group is on the journey to oneness in marriage. We believe that openness and honesty in a small group setting, using Biblically-based curriculum, is where God works to grow and resurrect marriages.

Q: When and where does re|engage meet?

When: Thursday Nights from 6:45 to 8:00p.

Where: For the Fall 2024 semester, we will meet in-person at our Central Campus.

Q: Can anyone register for re|engage?

You do NOT need to be a member of our church to attend as our program is open to the community.

Q: How much does it cost?

There is no cost to begin the ministry. The only cost occurs when you commit to and begin a Closed Group. At that time, we ask for $50 per couple. The one-time payment of $50 per couple helps cover the cost of hosting re|engage each week, as well as providing you and your spouse with a re|engage workbook to be used in your Closed Group. We never want the cost to be a prohibiting factor to you investing in your marriage. Please let us know if assistance is needed.

Q: What happens when we arrive at re|engage?

When you arrive at our Central Campus, you are welcome to park in any of the lots outside of our NorthPointe building. The class will meet in the NorthPoint classrooms in the west side of the building for small groups.

If you are utilizing childcare, you will drop off your children in our Main Building prior to attending class.

For the first two weeks, everyone will gather in the Large Group Meeting at 6:45p. From there, you will go to your assigned “Open Group.”

On the third week, if you’ve committed to join a “Closed Group,” you will immediately go to your assigned Closed Group room upon arrival.

If you are unable to commit to a Closed Group before the third week, you will have the opportunity to sign up for the next semester, but there will be no more Open Group meetings after the second week of the current semester.

Prior to Thursday meetings, you will receive a Monday email with a link to view a couple’s testimony or a marriage teaching. Please make every effort to view the video and be prepared for discussion at the beginning of the meeting.

Q: What is an Open Group?

Open Group is a group of up to 12 couples that may be different each week. Discussion is facilitated by a leader couple. Open Group is the first step to getting comfortable with discussing the topic of marriage in a group setting.

Q: What is a Closed Group?

Closed Group is a group of 5-7 couples who have committed to participate in the 16-lesson curriculum facilitated by a leader couple. This is where the really great stuff begins! To ensure the integrity of the Closed Group, it is expected and necessary that you attend and fully participate. In this group, you will find a safe and confidential environment where you can freely share your triumphs and your struggles.

Q: What happens if my spouse won’t attend?

If your spouse is unable or unwilling to attend, you are welcome to come to the Open Group on your own. However, both the husband and wife need to be committed in order to join a Closed Group.

Q: Is there homework?

Yes. And this is where you’ll get the most impact! Every Monday, you’ll receive an email with a link to a video testimony or teaching to view prior to Thursday’s meeting. In addition, the curriculum has questions for you individually, then discussion time as a couple. This generally takes about 15-20 minutes but allow extra time for some great discussion. The time required varies, but it is designed for minimal time commitment.

Q: My marriage is doing well. Can we benefit by attending re|engage?

Absolutely!! One of the most common comments from our leader couples who participated in our “pilot” was how much they benefited from and enjoyed the program in their own marriages, which were all “healthy” marriages. re|engage is a great place for couples to grow their marriage.

Q: I don’t know if I’ll have a marriage by the end of the month. Is re|engage a good place for us?

Absolutely!! There are many couples who have attended, or are attending, who are separated or divorced. While the outcome is based on the work each individual is willing to do to save their marriage, the platform provides a safe place to focus on what a healthy marriage should look like, and it provides some tools to help grow toward this goal.

Q: We don’t like spending time with each other anymore. Will we have to interact together?

While you will be in a small group together, each of you will be sharing about what you learn personally each week. However, there are some exercises that may require you to interact with each other throughout the process.

Q: I have no hope anymore. Is this a place where I can find hope?

Our prayer is that you will find hope that can come through allowing God to do a powerful work in you personally, and in your marriage. You can find hope through the numerous testimonies during our large group time from couples that are now thriving after overcoming significant challenges in their marriage. You can find hope in your Open Group and Closed Group of couples who are sharing their struggles and triumphs – most of which are common to all marriages. And you can definitely find hope from the scriptures that will be shared and studied during your time in re|engage.

Q: We have only been married for 6 months. Can we still come?

Absolutely!! In fact, participating in re|engage at this stage in your marriage is a great idea! The program will provide a strong foundation for your marriage.

Q: We are thinking about getting married (or are engaged). Is this ministry for us?

We suggest you elect to focus on marriage preparation through our premarital mentoring program. If you would like more information on the premarital mentoring program at RockPointe, please email marriage@rpcstaff.org or go to rpc.fm/prepare for more information.